So tonight, I ended up having two discussions with two different group of people dealing with two types of relationships. One being that of siblings, and one being that of romantic.

Now, opinions are like assholes, and I have one or a thousand, so I am now just thinking. And it dawned on me:

Relationships are like war. A series of well planned battles and diplomacy to reach a certain goal.

Now, don't get me wrong- relationships should never 'hurt'. There should never be abuse. But, people fight, they argue, time changes everyone even if everyone refuses to see the changes. I think that people who say "I'm the same person I was 10 years ago" are full of shit and biased. Mostly because people don't want to think that they've changed, that they're even a little bit different from who or what they were a few months ago. Life is meant to be that way. We live, we learn, we adapt, we change, we learn something else, we change. If you don't go with the flow, change and adapt, you get left behind. And when both of you change, its almost impossible to always have that same connection you started out having. So you have to question yourself, Do I like these changes? How have I changed? Can we regain that spark?
I'm watching a relationship break apart. They refuse to admit the changes, to make changes, to see the others point of view. And I see a perfectly workable relationship falling apart because people don't sit and listen. All of us are guilty. We never want to hear whats on our partners mind. That they MAY have a point. That you may not want to be wrong, but chances are, you both had a hand in making the problem at hand. Take a minute. Listen, think, take a break. But keep in mind, when you love someone - you have to fight sometimes, not fight sometimes, you can't fix everything, and not everything is something you can work out. You have to agree to disagree, and make a point to not broach that subject again. But if you love someone, and they generally make you happy, then in the end, its worth it. Its worth the fight over the tv to feel that person in your arms. Its worth bickering over cleaning to have their scent on your pillow. At least to me it is.